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313 It s not just about ADHD, it s about your life

We have come a loooong way. But there is still a ton of confusion around ADHD and neurodiversity in women.We need more research into hormones, and gender roles, and all the things. And we will get there with the help of pioneers like Sari, Dr. Frank, and my friend Terry Matlen.In the meantime, many of us are left feeling alone and overwhelmed trying to put into words what the struggle feels like.This book and the important conversations that come from it are going to be the driving force for change.In this thoughtful conversation about life for ADHD women you will hear:-Dr. Frank's feelings about ADHD as a gift or a curse-The importance of acknowledging ADHD and other invisible conditions-The concept of realistic hope-The belief that we are not enough, or we are too much-My meltdown after giving birth-The role of gender in our expectations for ourselves-Realizing you are not a burden, and it's ok to take up space in the world-Misunderstandings about therapy and other support-Common relationship issues in, "mixed" couplesHere is an affiliate link to the book - amzn.to/2LnMbutLink to Dr. Frank and Sari Solden's website - soldenfrank.comSolden and Frank on Facebook - facebook.com/soldenfrankandassociates/?__tn__=%2Cd%2CP-R&eid=ARBE4qfpOzmKuaSunhz9J2SoATCwvIx1eMcDUE7hSNfecah61F-Bm312U1wH2QYxq9FeGi3fNGP6Vi3oDr. Frank on Instagram - instagram.com/adhd_doc/Click to view: show page on Awesound

312 | ADHD Women and Productivity Shame

What is productivity shame? Well, I didn't come up with the name. In fact I stole it from Jocelyn K. Glei. I highly recommend her podcast called Hurry Slowly and her website.If you sat down and tracked how many hours of your day you spend checking email, scrolling, texting and otherwise avoiding your own thoughts - I guarantee you would be shocked.We fritter away so much time on useless activities.Sometimes we do it so we appear busy and in demand, while other times we are actually trying to escape our own thoughts or the problems in our lives.The same thing happens to stay-at-home-moms, EXCEPT we have much less tolerance for, "wasted time," when a woman works in the home.In this episode you will hear:- Productivity Shame- False productivity and business- The difference between speed and efficiency- Multitasking does NOT work- Less doing. More Being.- Energy management leads to productivityjkglei.comhealthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound

311 Surviving the Emotional Tornado of ADHD

For many people diagnosed as adults, the stages of the emotional tornado might feel similar to the stages of grief.Denial, Relief, Regret, Sorrow, Anger, Guilt. All the emotions show up.They say that ignorance is bliss. And sometimes, "knowing" doesn't make things easier, it makes things more complicated.Listen in as Rick Green and I discuss the emotional landscape of life after the adhd diagnosis.In this episode you will hear:-After you've struggled for so long, the profound to realization that you are NOT alone-The "death" of the old you, or who you were before the diagnosis-Challenges and barriers to diagnosis-The Evolution of Totally ADD-The big issue of how ADHD shows up in your life, and your sense of self-The stages of dealing with the diagnosis-Anger, depression, and feeling things sooooo deeply-Staying open to therapy and other support, even when you want to resist-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - that you can apply yourself!-Living the ADHD (reactive) life - and learning the power of the PAUSE-Learning to externalize and manage self-talkTotally ADD on Patreon - patreon.com/TotallyADD/overviewTotally ADD Store - totallyaddshop.comLink to written post - wp.me/p60iCk-ViClick to view: show page on Awesound

310 | ADHD Women and Mothers Need Support

ADHD women and mothers need support and connection. And we often don't get it.You've probably joined some of the Facebook groups. And you've probably experienced why that doesn't really "connect" us.ADHD in adult women is still widely unrecognized and misunderstood. Many of us are stumbling through life, not sure of how to handle our lives.What is the one thing we all have in common?We want to feel understood and accepted. And we want to feel less overwhelmed and burned out.That's my job. In the ADHD Enclave show you that a totally flawed, disorganized, flaky ADHD mom can build a life that she loves and a business that makes an impact.It's not easy, but it is possible.I set out to create a safe space where we could talk openly about all of the issues.Whether you have been recently diagnosed, or you have been living in hiding for years, I invite you in.Click to view: show page on Awesound

309 | Lets Get Real

Lets get real about all of it.Because I'm forty and I just don't care as much any more about appealing to everyone. What's that expression?If you try to serve everyone, then you end up serving no-one.In this episode you will hear me get real (With a little help from the Velveteen Rabbit) about ten realizations I've come to in my forty years on earth.-Nobody has a perfect childhood (your kids won't either)-Children are more perceptive than we like to believe-School is great, but an EDUCATION is what really matters-Look for mentors, you will need them-You need female friends-People suck sometimes-People are also amazing and profound and confusing-Practice tolerating discomfort-Learn how to ask for what you need-Keep it real. Always.healthyadhd.lpages.co/the-adhd-enclave/Click to view: show page on Awesound

308 | 4 Ways for ADHD Women to Be More Self-Compassionate

ADHD and self-compassion are not often discussed together, but they can coexist. As you learn more about how your ADHD brain is wired and what works you will eventually (I promise) get to a place where you are ready to move forward, and practice self-compassion.The Negative Thought Vortex of ADHD, combined with the Executive Function difficulties inherent to the condition, make it difficult to manage emotions, plan ahead, and maintain meaningful relationships. You will certainly have days that feel like a struggle.But you will also have progress. And days where you feel like anything is possible.Read more...wp.me/p60iCk-K5adoseofhealthydistraction.com/self-talk-for-emotional-management/Link to Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristen Neff - amzn.to/2Wt2oosClick to view: show page on Awesound

307 | Anxiety, ADHD, and Future Tripping

Anxiety and ADHD can show up in your life in some really sneaky ways. You might be walking around seeing the world through the filter of anxiety and not even realize how it affects your mood, your relationships, even your work.In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I decided to revisit and expand upon my written post on the subject.In this episode you'll hear:-Several examples of how ADHD and anxiety show up in my life-The connection between anxiety and hypersensitivity-Perfectionism-Negative ruminations-Avoidant behaviors that signal anxiety-Fear of negative feedbackI also explain my theory on, "future tripping" and why dwelling too much on the past OR the future can also increase our anxiety. RELEVANT LINKSadoseofhealthydistraction.com/cognitive-distortions-adhd/adoseofhealthydistraction.com/adhd-anxiety/Anxiety ToolKit Book - amzn.to/2DZdGq0The Healthy Mind Toolkit - amzn.to/2VrYdJONotes on a Nervous Planet - amzn.to/2HdxSq7Click to view: show page on Awesound

306 | The HealtyADHD Husband Speaks

We who have ADHD rarely talk about our partners without ADHD. When it comes to relationships and ADHD some patterns emerge.One common issue occurs when the partner without ADHD doesn't understand what the diagnosis means and cannot offer any level of feedback or support. Or they feel overwhelmed by the needs of the ADHD partner, and feel useless and unable to help.Alternatively, the non-ADHD partner does not want to understand or feels that any mental health diagnosis is shameful.Within my community, I've been told that many non-ADHD partners actually refuse to attend counseling or acknowledge the diagnosis at all. My husband is very partnership oriented, and has always been curious and willing to learn.So many people have asked me about the Hubs and how we keep our relationship strong. The truth is much simpler (read: not easier) than you might think.So I gathered questions from some of my community members, and some followers on social media. Then the Hubs sat down with me in my uber professional recording booth in the spare bedroom and answered them.Some of his answers surprised even me. And he has offered to come back again as needed to discuss "mixed" relationships in the future.In this episode you will hear:- How we met- How he he discovered I had ADHD-The most annoying parts of living with me- His thoughts on gender roles in modern marriage/relationships- Why seeking mental health treatment should not be shameful- Our collective feelings about couples counseling- Things he likes best about meIf you have any other questions for the Hubs submit them to healthyadhd@gmail.comClick to view: show page on Awesound

305 | Connection Heals: The link between ADHD, PTSD and emotional balance

Allison Arkfeld, MA AMFT, is a Somatic Psychotherapist working out of Long Beach, CA.In episode 305 Allison explains that the traditional model of ADHD, as a brain-based neurodevelopment disorder separate from any somatic symptoms is becoming outdated.We now know that several somatic diseases are linked to ADHD, and that the ADHD mind works in concert with the body.There is growing evidence that a multi-modal approach to treating ADHD that includes body work, meditation, medications, traditional therapy, and coaching - holds great benefit.In this thought-provoking episode you will learn about:-Empowerment within the body-Using body sensations to self-regulate-Multi-modal support for ADHD-Real-life applications for polyvagal theory-The difficulty in treating PTSD with an ADHD mind-The healing power of human connection-Defining trauma (it's not what you think!)-Corrective experiences that heal-How ADHD and PTSD affect social interactions/interpersonal relationshipsThis is episode will open yours eyes to the connection between your ADHD mind and your body.ptsd-adhd.comallison@ptsd-adhd.cominstagram.com/ptsd__adhd/Click to view: show page on Awesound

304 | Shame Is Not Your Story

Shame is a tricky thing, because it comes with experiences and is wrapped into other emotions. At the end of my conversation with Dania Chebib I asked her how we should end our recording. And she said, "Shame is not your story." It was perfect, so I made it the title of episode 304.Dania is a psychotherapist practicing out of Kelowna, British Columbia. Her areas of specialty include: ADHD/Autism in adults, negative self-talk/self-esteem, grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, LGBTQQI, sleep disorders, substance abuse, chronic pain, HSP's, and stage of life issues.Are you impressed, yet?Hear about:-Dania's ADHD story-Rewriting your own story and developing self-compassion-Knowing when to walk away from an unhealthy situation-ADHD discrimination-Creating your own sense of credibility in your work-Shame as an inhibitory emotion-Recognizing shame-Mental health stigma as a societal issue-The difference between shame and guiltDania teaches you how to go into your bodyduring minutes 37-47 so be sure to listen to this!FIND DANIA:helixintegrativehealth.ca/dania-chebibpsychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/dania-chebib-kelowna-bc/363340instagram.com/daniachebib/Click to view: show page on Awesound